09 Jan The Graceful Year, and the Infinite Spiral of Becoming
My Facebook feed does not reflect this, on the whole. Many of us are more than glad to see the rear end of 2016 and are already hurrying forward to greet the new year for what MUST promise better times. It seems most people are in agreement that this past year has been tough on all levels, stretching each of us beyond our comfort zones, and perhaps breaking us a little (or a lot) in the process. We don’t like to be stretched. And we certainly don’t like the tears, scrapes and bruises that can accompany it. It feels UNCOMFORTABLE. Sometimes, deeply so.We don't like to be stretched. And we certainly don't like the tears, scrapes and bruises that can… Click To Tweet
I’ve certainly had my fair share of this in 2016. But then, the previous four years prepared me well. I have learned to cope with death and destruction. In fact, I’ve learned to embrace it, because death and destruction is a natural part of the cycle of life – not just generational, but also personal. To become what we most want to BE, we must let go of the parts of us that need to be shed, to die off, to reset and grow anew.
I have shed my skin these last four years a million times over, both physically and metaphorically. I have had no choice but to let go of my egoic attachment to HOW I LOOK in favour of who I AM. This has taught me incredible patience, reverence and respect for the process of death and apparent loss.
That loss might take many forms:
- Your ‘looks’ (new wrinkles, new body shape, new visible health challenge)
- Your friends (as you grow, you naturally shed friendships which are no longer in alignment)
- Your family (they might feel threatened by your growth, and you might lose your old way of being with them, either to leave or grow together anew)
- Your expectations (maybe things didn’t go as well as you hoped this year, and that’s ok!)
However you look at it, death and destruction are everywhere and form a natural and totally PREDICTABLE season in your growth cycle. It’s up to you how you regard this Wintry energy – as a threat, or an opportunity. Will you hibernate to heal, repair and grow anew, or will you put up defences and attempt to stop time itself from flowing?Will you hibernate to heal, repair and grow anew, or will you put up defences and attempt to stop… Click To Tweet
Whether you view an apparent challenge as a negative drama in your life, or an opportunity to re-evaluate and move forwards with grace, ease and humility, makes ALL the difference – not least to how you FEEL through the process!
Focus on pain, and you experience more pain, constriction and fermenting bitterness.
Focus on surrounding that pain with love and spaciousness, and you automatically generate ease, forwards momentum and a sense of love, expansion and release in all areas.Focus on pain, and you experience more pain, constriction and fermenting bitterness. Click To Tweet
It’s just the Spiral of Becoming – with every cycle, and if you allow it, you move upwards and outwards. There’s a beautiful predictability in it when you begin to embrace this. And when you find yourself in a slump of one sort or another, you know in your heart it’s a turning point, as surely as spring follows winter.
So no, I won’t mourn for 2016. And my hopes for 2017 are no rebound affair! I am learning that there is an equality in nature so far unparalleled in the human spirit, and that equality stretches across time, space and all energies. It is a subtleness, a quietude, and a certainty. And unlike our magnetic pull into this black hole or that one, it glides easily onwards, flowing over and around and sometimes straight through.
This beautiful yet powerful equality in nature is called Grace. More than my largest hopes, dreams, desires or goals, that is what guides me into the New Year. Grace combines inevitability with conscious intention, and illuminates the way – bit by bit – so we’re never lost or floundering. Grace remembers you’re scared of the dark, and reminds you gently of her presence, even when you’re furious with her.Grace remembers you're scared of the dark, and reminds you gently of her presence, even when you're… Click To Tweet
No year should be seen as merely a series of dramatic deaths, physical or otherwise. And that’s why I’m stepping forwards into 2017 and an infinity if new beginnings, with grace. Will you join me?